It seems like an eternity since the last time I wrote something. I’m sure you are all thanking the respite from me and my stories. I do not know why I haven’t been writing because there’s still a lot of zaniness stored up in my head to share with you.
“I know…. Ken keep it in your Head” NOT
Through the ages people have been giving the advise “Never Date somebody you work with”…because it can come back and bite you in the ass….. and I can attest to that because I still think I have a few divots missing.
Now getting back to how I got those divots……. In a place and time LONG LONG AGO…..get the drift when I was young….. 2 of my divots were earned actually at the same place. Go figure didn’t learn the 1st time….. I guess I was not listening to my head that stores my brain…… I think I was 25ish and a bartender at the most popular eatery in town….. in those days it was not a sit down variety but a service bar where all the drinks were ordered by waiters, waitresses and in our very large lounge by cocktail “people”… they were all females….. Well there was slew of them. Being the charming guy I am all the girls (women) just liked me….. As all restaurant people know there is always some type of flirting going on……needed to ease the stress of working in a busy place. Well yes I damn flirted… and they back at me…. As restaurant people go we all kinda hung together as a clique….after work and on weekends.
The first time I did not heed this advice was actually with 2 cocktail waitresses at the same time….. Yes I know a cad….but they both had boyfriends and I guess I was a change of pace for them…I do not know how why I did this but I did… now you know how hard it is to keep anything at work a secret but I was pretty good at this…. the problem also these 2 were best of friends.. so there was a lot of sneaking going on…. this went on then like any crazy ass secret everyone found out….. there seemed to be some type of animosity between the 2 but not at me…HMMMM. My sense of morality kicked in …I could not be the cause of best friends having a fight… What do I do..well I had a friend living in Denver and figured why not go out there and visit and let things cool down here…. One good thing working in a restaurant the days can be flexible.. so went and stayed for around a month….. I will babble about that trip sometime in the future but back to this…. I figured the right thing to do is to write both of them I guess sort of a ”Dear John” letter for somebody who was not their boyfriend. I told them that we all knew this wouldn’t work and I didn’t want to be the reason for them to end their friendship….and blah blah blah….. When I got back it seemed all was right in our little restaurant world…Don’t know if I took the cowards way out….. remember they chased me….
The second and actually looking back now the amusing one…..
Same restaurant about the same time.
Actually about a year later… same basic crew working together…..just friends with the 1st 2. Another cocktail waitress who worked during my escapades and yes I was friends with mentioned she cleaned houses…. Ken do you need my services….. Hahaha….. Well rented and lived with 2 other guys in a house right on the beach…what a party house….So yes I needed maid service…. She came and cleaned my room and did the dishes for X amount of dollars per week…..this was working out great…until one night out at one of the bars drinking and somehow met up with her and proceeded to get hammered…. so I think both of us looked good to each other at closing time. I went to her place and we went at it….. This where I got myself in trouble…. I went home and thought about this…… Now sexually I was attracted to her…but we really did not have anything in common…”Well that we did…you know what I mean”. So in my brain I rationalized that I should tell her that this would be a mistake…and blah blah blah….. Seriously I was not trying to be an ass or a scumbag….. It just so happens we had a restaurant meeting the next day Saturday….. I got enough balls to make my speech… OMG…. She had a fit and said things to me….. then that night we had to work together …you talk about uncomfortable… I was definitely in her crosshairs…. and of course people were talking…. Now I worked later than her so when I came home…forgot to tell you my bedroom was on the second floor….. so yes she was my “Upstairs maid”. Evidently she stopped at my house told one of my roommates that she forgot something….. yea she forgot something….. She forgot to throw all my stuff out the window…. which I sidestepped on my way into the house….. I think it took awhile before she would talk to me again……somehow we became buds again… One good thing about me I am infectious and it is hard to get rid of me and people can’t help it they just like me…. watch I will get comments sent in from people who think I am ass….
You would think some of this would have sunk into my head but evidently I have a hard head…. close to 20 years later I dated I co-manager at a restaurant in West Hartford (yes I was divorced by then).
I know I can preach and spew words of wisdom…. but as my Ole pappy always said… “Shit Happens” aint that the truth… You talk about a kid in candy shop… where I work it is about 90% women…. every so often I catch my self ……being to nice and I think too much flirting….and have to put the breaks on and say “Whoa Ken back off” I really am trying to adhere to that but sometimes it is tough…. Oh well
“Shit Happens”
I think I am in the swing again lucky all of you…. that have to read my stuff (sarcasm in case you didn’t know)
have a nice day and of course my “Monty Python” homage….
“Albatross”
